The Difference in Gossip and Confiding

I’m very proud of my daughter.

A friend of my daughter asked her if she knew what happened between her and so-N-so. My daughter said she did not want to know and get into that drama.

I was very proud of my daughter. I think she is wise to understand that she already has enough to worry about and adding other people’s trouble onto herself is not a good way to spend her time.

If her friend had approached her in a different way, my daughter would have offered to listen to her.

Do you know what the difference is in my daughter NOT wanting to hear and offering to listen? The first sentence.

The first sentence is the difference between gossip and confiding. Gossip is information about the lives of other people that are really non of your business. Confiding it to tell someone something in private that you trust for advice or redirection.

The first sentence sets the tone. When you gossip, the first sentence is, “Did you hear about…?”, or “Do you know what happened?” or “Can you believe…?”.  What is the motive? Do you want someone on your side? Do you want someone to look bad and ‘help’ your friend feel the same way you do?

When you are confiding in someone your first sentence has a different tone like,  “I need your advice,” or “Can you pray with me about something?”, or “Something is bothering me and I need a biblical perspective.” Asking for prayer is a whole different tone and it seems you want a whole different outcome. When you confide in someone, you are seeking the best for you because you have a problem you want to work through with a friend and God and you want the best for the others involved too.

Next time you talk to a friend, choose your first sentence wisely. Will it diffuse drama or add fuel to the fire?

Life is Precious

In the past three months, I have attended many funerals. This morning I heard about the death of a ladies husband who had been in the hospital for a long time.

Life is so precious. We go to great lengths to find solutions, find doctors, take tests, undergo surgeries, rehab, and heal. We try to save ourselves or our loved ones from pain, indignity and death.

I know a sweet man who is undergoing care for dementia. Caregivers are attending to him hourly to support and sustain any memory he has left. I know another man who walks with horrible pain and is about to have back surgery. I know a man who had his leg amputated. I heard of a lady who died from the flu. I heard a story about a teenager who died because she would not deny Jesus.

All of these situations are painful and make us weak and worry. We are not promised tomorrow, however. No amount of medication, prayer, surgery or money will save us from death one day. It is the cycle of life.

Jesus, however, was not sick. He didn’t need a doctor. He was the doctor. He was not old with a worn out body. He could have gone back to heaven without dying. BUT, he chose to become SIN (2 Cor 5:21) and die on a cross. He was healthy with supernatural power and he chose to die for us.

How do you show your love and devotion and appreciation to God who gave his only son for you? Not that you will have an easy life here on earth, but that you will be with Him in heaven AFTER this life of aches and pains and death.

We say so many great things about people at their funerals. Sometimes we say great things at retirement parties, 50th wedding anniversary parties or 90th birthday parties, but how about saying them before they die? Same with God. Praise him for his blessings before it is too late. Thank him for answered and unanswered prayers before you have no more prayers to offer. I’ll even go so far as to bow before the Lord in thanks and praise BEFORE the time when EVERY knee WILL bow (Philippians 2:10).

Jesus gave it all. What is your ALL? How can you sacrifice for others? How can you point others to Jesus?

If you need help discovering your God-anointed purpose; if you want to learn how your gifts can be used for the glory of God and to help others; if you want to boldly share your story, let’s talk.

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